Thursday, April 22, 2010

Jealousy

The other day I found myself browsing around on Facebook and I noticed one of my old friends changed her status to single. As I was thinking about this, I came to a huge realization. I have wasted way too much time being jealous of other women. Here are a few examples.

Example one: aforementioned friend. I worked with this girl when I was a waitress at a crappy restaurant. This girl and I were completely inseparable for a while. Then, she met a guy and fell in love. And she fell FAST. After about a week she was telling me that she was in love! I was so incredibly jealous. All through high school and college I yearned for a boyfriend. I was so tired of being alone and my one good friend starts ditching me for a guy.

Fast forward to now. She got pregnant with this guy that she "loved" and he proposed to her. She said yes and spent over a year engaged but with no wedding date. Now, she is a single mom and is no longer with the guy. She is a waitress and has no college degree.

Example two: a friend from college. This friend wanted to be a model. She went to college but decided instead of using her degree, she would focus on modeling. Then she started seeing a guy that she was really happy with. I was (still) single and lonely. I didn't want to be a model but it would have been nice to be as gorgeous as this girl. She dated the guy for close to 4 years and they recently broke up. She never really got anywhere modeling and now just spends her time partying.

I, on the other hand, am married and extremely happy. The hubby and I are talking about starting a family soon and I am so excited! I am not in any way saying that I am better then these two friends or that they made bad decisions. I am just trying to say that comparing yourself to others is completely pointless and a waste of time. You never know what the future holds and you can never truly know what that person has to deal with in their lives. As of today, I am going to stop comparing my looks, clothes, job, husband, family, etc to other people. I am going to be grateful for what I have in my life and not waste any more energy being jealous.

P.S. On a totally unrelated note, in the middle of writing this post (at work) I heard some children playing in the hallway. I immediately stopped what I was doing to go see them. It is like I am DRAWN to children now. Everywhere I go I see them. I want one!!

1 comment:

Gooseberried said...

That's so true. Everyone is different and will lead their own lives as they are meant to be played out.

That's really too bad about your old friends. I hope they find a sense of placement soon.

My biological clock has soooo not started ticking. At the moment, I loathe children. :) I have no idea when it's going to feel right for me to start having kids. Hopefully soon, because I be gettin' old.